Bourne Supremacy: Mum-In-Law Rant Goes Viral

Just as I was wondering if I had anything good for a Friday Fun, a little beauty drops into my inbox.

This email has gone uber viral around the web and has even been picked up by the mainstream news media. It is being reported as being an email from Carolyn Bourne to her soon to be Daughter-in-law, Heidi Withers.

Caroline Bourne seems to have taken exception to Heidi’s lack of manners and Caroline totally takes her to task in the email over her rudeness. The email went viral after Heidi received the email and was so shocked when she got it she forwarded it on to some friends, who also forwarded it to a few friends and the rest as they say is history.

Being a dad of three with two in their teens I do have a bit of sympathy towards Caroline, but some of it is a way over the top mega rant (in a very upper class way) and fair warning to anyone thinking of telling someone off via email.

There are a few versions doing the rounds but I think this is the fullest. I cannot vouch for its accuracy. Sit back with a nice Friday cuppa, and enjoy.


It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you.

I am being kept awake – or woken early – by Edward [Freddie’s father] who is so profoundly upset by your behaviour on your recent visit that he is depressed and anxious.

Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you and Freddie being Freddie, I gather it is not easy to reason with him or yet encourage him to consider how he might be able to help you. It may just be possible to get through to you though. I do hope so. Your behaviour on your visit to Devon during April was staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace. Unfortunately, this was not the first example of bad manners I have experienced from you. If you want to be accepted by the wider Bourne family I suggest you take some guidance from experts with utmost haste. There are plenty of finishing schools around. You would be an ideal candidate for the Ladette to Lady television series. Please, for your own good, for Freddie’s sake and for your future involvement with the Bourne family, do something as soon as possible.

Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

When you are a guest in another’s house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

You do not start before everyone else.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

When a guest in another’s house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early – you fall in line with house norms.

You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

I have no idea whether you wrote to thank [your future sister-in-law] for the weekend but you should have hand-written a card to her.

You should have hand-written a card to me. You have never written to thank me when you have stayed at Houndspool.

[Your future sister-in-law] has quite the most exquisite manners of anyone I have ever come across. You would do well to follow her example.

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why.

It is tragic that you have diabetes. However, you aren’t the only young person in the world who is a diabetic. I know quite a few young people who have this condition, one of whom is getting married in June. I have never heard her discuss her condition. She quietly gets on with it. She doesn’t like being diabetic. Who would? You do not need to regale everyone with the details of your condition or use it as an excuse to draw attention to yourself. It is vulgar.

As a diabetic of long standing you must be acutely aware of the need to prepare yourself for extraordinary eventualities, the walk to Mothecombe beach being an example. You are experienced enough to have prepared yourself appropriately.

No-one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters’ marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

One could be accused of thinking that Carolyn must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.



Christmas is going to be fun in this household this year.

Have a good weekend, Phil



  11 comments for “Bourne Supremacy: Mum-In-Law Rant Goes Viral

  1. izzy
    1st July 2011 at 10:43 am

    if ur a guest in someones house you should play by there rules but she goes well over the top

  2. Jen
    1st July 2011 at 1:37 pm

    how can you have sympathy with this woman shes like well out of order

  3. min-minx
    1st July 2011 at 1:42 pm

    i dont care what she did there is no excuse for that

  4. Emma Levy
    1st July 2011 at 3:03 pm

    dont be so harsh on her you dont know wat the other gurl did

  5. Rachel Page
    1st July 2011 at 5:56 pm

    I think the email shows bad manners, those in glass houses and all that

  6. Kyle Richards
    1st July 2011 at 9:22 pm

    it aint right it aint wrong its f***ing funny

    • 2nd July 2011 at 8:13 am

      This is a business blog Kyle with a bit of fun thrown in when it takes my fancy. I have starred out the offensive word, no profanity please

  7. 2nd July 2011 at 10:01 am

    To Clafiry My Position: I think that there’s two sides to every argument and in this we only have one. Caroline has obviously gone over the top and I would imagine that if she could do things differently she would, but the can of worms is open and now she has to suck it up.

    We all get frustrated with family situations from time to time. Caroline obviously did. Cut her a bit of slack (not much, a bit).

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